How To Stop Comparing Yourself
Are you comparing yourself to others? Then do you feel worse? Or better than them? Do you want to stop but don't know how? Exactly … We're very well trained…
The People Pleaser
You perfectly recognize the moods and feelings of others and cannot rest until everyone around you is feeling well. You offer help, time, and attention to others, and at the…
How To Distinguish Between Mature And Immature Feelings
Your feelings & emotions work like the immune system in your body: they give you an immediate signal of what is currently going on in your psyche and in your…
The Mature & Immature Lover
THE IMMATURE LOVER:• defines him- or herself by relationships,• wants to be liked and loved by everybody,• cannot stand being alone,• very emotional, sometimes unstable, even dramatic,• needs a romance…
The Saboteur says: “It’s not that bad…”
„We get along in daily life”. „This will pass when the stress is over”. „She/he is a good person”. „It'll solve itself somehow.” „This job pays my bills …" What’s…
The Mature & Immature Victim
The Immature Victim:• is about feeling hurt, loss and humiliation,• but never letting go of past suffering,• doesn’t want any solution,• just to tell their story,• and be listened to,…
Toxic And Sacred Not-Knowing
How do you discern between not-knowing which is an excuse to avoid action and not-knowing that is necessary to wait and be patient? There is not knowing that serves as…
If someone offered it to you…
...would you choose the roleof the Good Girl or the Good Boyas your way of life?Focusing on fulfilling the expectationsof others so that they like and appreciate you,so you can…
Closeup of the famous Skogafoss waterfall in Iceland. This waterfall is situated on the Skoga River in the south of Iceland at the cliffs of the former coastline.
Are You Like A Waterfall Or A River With Many Arms?
A waterfall is powerful because all its water flows in one direction. You are like a waterfall when your thoughts, feelings, words, and actions are consistent. When you live in…
How To Navigate Anger
There is no one person who doesn’t feel anger.The only question is: do they express their anger or not? Anger belongs to the 7 basic emotions, apart from joy, sadness,…
Do You Know The Pain Of Keep Repeating The Same Mistakes?
The worst thing is not that I've made a mistake or done something stupid. The worst thing is that I did it again.And again … As Marianne Williamson says: "When…
I’d Like To Tell You Something Important…
Maybe, you're like me and have days when you can only see your weaknesses, mistakes, tons of things that you want to change in yourself, and situations in which you…
What Do You Need To Do To Have The Results You Want
The first thing I teach in coaching is that you have to believe you can achieve your goal. It’s about getting out of helplessness. So stop repeating to yourself: "I…
Why Do I Do Things That I Don’t Want To Do
I don't know about you, but every day I do things that I don't want to do. I do it intentionally. Purposely. Consistently. I don't want to evaluate every session…
How The Addict Operates
The Addict makes their well-being dependent on something external: food, drinks, money, achievements, other people's approval, diplomas, positions, young look, number of likes or followers… And because they want to…
The Mature & Immature Critic
THE IMMATURE CRITIC: • criticizes everything and everyone, all the time,• especially you,• never satisfied,• tries to protect you from being criticized by others,• always knows „how it should be”,•…
THE SEEKER IN YOU
Are you still looking for your place in life? Literally - where do you want to live, how, with whom? What work do you want to do, what is your…
THE SABOTEUR SAYS: “I GIVE UP…”
Have you ever said to yourself:"I give up". "I've tried everything." "It will never change." „I've lost hope…"This is the Saboteur in you again.But I need to tell you this:Hey,…
Emotional Patterns
Our mind operates according to patterns and laws. Like our bodies. Like Nature. Like our whole world. You have some very supportive, empowering patterns. And some disempowering and destructive ones.…
The Mature & Immature Saboteur
The Immature Saboteur:• will do everything to prevent and block any change in your life,• positive change, negative change, big or small - ANY CHANGE,• because it wants to protect…
The Mature & Immature Controller
THE IMMATURE CONTROLLER IN YOU: • wants to control everything and everyone, • especially other people :) • takes everything as a real danger, • cannot distinguish between a real…
#4 FEAR OF HURT
The more involved you are in a relationship, the more likely you are to get hurt because the more you are emotionally exposed, the more dependent you are, and the…
#3 Fear Of Loosing Freedom in Relationship
Of course, when you start a serious relationship it limits your freedom :) You start sharing your time, space, money, and decisions with the other person, or at least -…
The Saboteur says: “I can’t trust people anymore…”
Why?Because they let me down, cheated on me, abused me… I understand. Definitely, there are people in the world - around us -who devote all their efforts to making someone…
The Myth Of The Special Relationship
The concept of the special relationship comes from the belief that there is one and only one person in the whole world, born especially to meet me, who is a…
#2 Fear of Change
A new relationship is always a huge change in our life. And it should be 🙂 Why would I even start a relationship if I want to keep my life…
#1 Fear of Intimacy
We desire to express ourselves in relationships, be authentic, share our vulnerabilities and successes, and… be accepted and loved for all of that. At the same time, this desire brings…
15 Ways To Sabotage Your Relationships
When I feel hurt by my partner, I just withdraw from the relationship.I’m so busy I just don’t have time for my partner.Whenever a serious partner shows up in my…
Healthy vs Toxic Shame
The Healthy or Mature Shame shows up to protect my private, intimate, and public self. It helps to set healthy boundaries between me and the world. Healthy Shame comes when…
I’d Like To Tell You Something Important…
It’s ok to feel all feelings and emotions. Actually, it’s the most natural thing to do for us, humans :) We’re born with the capacity to feel. We need to…
Healthy vs Toxic Helplessness
The healthy or mature Hopelessness is about surrender. I have to let go of my need for control over something much bigger and more powerful than me. I can call…
Healthy vs Toxic Joy
The healthy or mature Joy is about feeling a deep YES to everything :) It’s only possible when I’m fully present here and now. And when I’m in deep contact…
The Saboteur says: “There’s no spectacular success…”
The Saboteur says: there’s no spectacular success… you should ALREADY have seen huge changes,preferably right after starting and without much effort,or you should have radical changes in all important areas…
Healthy vs Toxic Guilt
The healthy or mature Guilt is about recognizing that I’ve made a mistake or did something that created pain or any sort of damage. That my words or actions were…
Healthy vs Toxic Jealousy
Healthy or Mature Jealousy says: „Oh, I didn’t know I wanted this” - something that someone did or has or is like. I wasn’t aware that I also crave that.…
Healthy vs Toxic Sadness
Healthy or mature Sadness is a message that you’ve just lost something or someone precious to you. Or you’re losing it now. So healthy Sadness helps you STOP and withdraw…
Healthy vs Toxic Fear
Healthy or mature Fear is our mechanism to protect us from all sorts of danger. Physical danger, emotional and social danger as much as spiritual, financial, health danger, etc. It…
Healthy vs Toxic Anger
Healthy or mature Anger is a message that someone, including myself, has just crossed my boundaries. The energy of mature Anger is used to: take the necessary action now andchange…
The Lover In Me
There is a part of you that puts relationships at the very center of your life. Which cannot live without friendly and loving relationships with others. Which flourishes and can…
Why Do We Need Feelings
Feelings & emotions are our psychic immune system - they tell you immediately what’s going on in you and around you. The major function of your feelings and emotions is…
The Inner Critic
Nothing in our lives can diminish our self-confidence, enthusiasm for taking action and positive attitude such as our inner Critic. This is the aspect in us that will never be…
12 Ways To Sabotage Yourself As A Parent
Repeating to yourself that you’re a bad mother/father.Cutting off your feelings and emotions. And the feelings and emotions of your child.Expecting your child to be hassle-free. Non-problematicPresenting yourself as the…
The Inner Controller
Strong inner Controller = a lot of stress. The immature Controller wants to control: • other people, • especially what they think about you, • your emotions and feelings, •…
How To Act in Crisis – 5 Rules
These 5 universal principles of action apply to every crisis: health, family, work, financial, relational, social, or cultural crisis. Act differently than before. Remember: your old strategies led you to…
How To Be The Mature Adult
Our inner child conditions how safe we feel in relationships and in the world, and how deeply we can trust. The most important function of a loving Parent in us…
15 Ways To Sabotage Yourself
Constantly comparing yourself to others. Up and down.Focusing on what you don't have and what you can't handle/do.Surrounding yourself with critical and negative people.Asking everyone for advice and approval.Running away…
The Inner Child in You
❓Do you feel safe in your life? ❓ In your body? ❓Are you able to trust in relationships? ❓Do you allow yourself to feel and express all your feelings? ❓Be…
The Saboteur says: “It should be easy…”
•to be in a relationship • to run your own business • to do a job you love • to raise your own child • to grow and evolve •…
The 3 Most Common Excuses of The Saboteur
The three most common excuses of the Saboteur are: I don't have time.I don’t have money.I don't know what my partner, friend, therapist, boss, mom, dad, or child… will say…
The Saboteur says: “I’m not ready…”
• I still need to do another course, obtain another certificate, do postgraduate studies, read more books … to start my own business, apply for a higher position, change my…
The Loving Parent in Me
The Loving Parent: • gives us unconditional love and acceptance, • perfectly understands our feelings and needs and responds to them...
The Saboteur says: “I’m afraid…”
Of course! It is understandable and normal to feel anxious, fearful, and stressed when: • you want to do something new that you have never done before, • you take…
5 reasons why the Saboteur is so effective
⭐ 1. Because it is unconscious. ⭐
Consciously, we do not want to boycott our successes, health, relationships, or wealth.
BUT unconsciously, we are acting against ourselves!
And as you know: the unconscious always wins over the conscious …
Are You a People Pleaser?
The People Pleaser or Sweetie or Co-dependent or adult version of Good Girl and Good Boy: - you feel obliged to take responsibility of other people’s feelings...
The Saboteur says: “I’ll try…”
One of the most common strategies of the inner Saboteur which looks so innocent :) is: I will try...
