The healthy or mature Hopelessness is about surrender.
I have to let go of my need for control over something much bigger and more powerful than me.
I can call it Life, or God, or the Universe, or Love, or Destiny…
I have to acknowledge that I’m not in charge of the external situation, the outside world.
But humble up and accept that I’m just a piece or a wave of the whole ocean.
My ego doesn’t like it. At all 🙂
But true surrender always comes from a deep trust and because of that it also brings relaxation and freedom and a sense of being taken care of – no matter what the external situation is now.
I’m still a co-creator of my own life and the external situation but I’m aware that there is a bigger force that runs the show.
The toxic or immature Hopelessness is about trying to fight this bigger force.
And that will always, always end up with exhaustion and loss.
I can never win against life since I’m just a small part of it.
The toxic Helplessness can also manifest itself as not taking responsibility for myself and my deeds.
I let go of my responsibilities to something outside of me and I can blame it afterward.
I feel totally dependent on external circumstances, other people, state policies, my religion, the constellation of the planets, the culture I was born in, my parents…
… and Iet them direct and control me and my life.
And then complain even more.
So what are you choosing today?
I’m not saying it is easy.
I’m saying: you have a choice.
And please notice: you cannot trust and surrender to anything or anyone if you don’t trust yourself first.